Irma Jean Presher Obituary
Born to Anna Crookham Musgrove and Henry Albert Musgrove in Piedmont OK (2/1/1928). Siblings: sister; Buena Shepard, brothers; Henry Albert (H.A.), Olen, & Carl. Irma graduated from Piedmont high school then from secretarial school and worked as a secretary before marrying Clifford Patrick Presher (Pat) in Oklahoma on 1/18/1952. They had one child, Deborah Jean (2/18/1953) who married Terry A. Martin.
Irma is preceded in death by husband: Clifford Patrick Presher (Pat) and siblings: sister; Buena Shepard, brothers; Henry Albert (H.A.), Olen, & Carl and Deborah’s husband, Terry Martin.
Irma is survived by her daughter, Deborah Jean Martin and two grandchildren, Caleb Patrick Martin and Bethany Elizabeth Martin River, wife of Thaddaeus Marshall River.
After Pat and Irma got married, they lived in a small apartment in Stroud for a short while. Then the military decided he was needed, and they drafted him in spite of their young daughter, Deborah. While Pat was in the military Irma moved back to her parent’s home in Piedmont with Deborah. Once Pat was out of the military, they bought a home in Bethany where they lived until Deborah graduated from high school and they built a home on South May Avenue.
Irma was an expert at pinching pennies. She lived on less than they made. She paid extra on their mortgages each month to pay them off. She used and reused to make their money stretch. She helped Pat with the rent houses so they didn’t have to pay someone else. She did all the cleaning and half of the heavy lifting. She helped move refrigerators, painted, and did all the bookkeeping. She advertised, showed the houses, collected rent, and generally decided who to rent to.
One of Irma’s favorite past times was listening to Christian radio preachers. If Pat wasn’t home, KQCV would be on from morning to night.
Irma’s greatest skill was cooking desserts. She made the best pies and cookies because she liked sweets. When she was a little girl her mother had a large sugar-jar with a screw-on metal lid. Irma would try to sneak sugar by unscrewing the lid without her mother catching her. But, she always got caught. Once they were married, there were always desserts for supper.
Irma was principled and a very strong-willed woman. Before they bought the house on S May Avenue, they seriously considered a house in south Bethany. It had a bit of land, an older house and a detached garage. Irma was not too happy with the house, but she was willing to buy it. When they found out that half the garage had been on the neighbor’s land for 20+ years, Irma put her foot down. She wasn’t wild about the house, but a legal battle over the garage was a strong, “No.” In order to buy the land, it took both signatures on the contract. Irma was adamant, she would not sign it. Pat was not happy, but they ended up with a larger piece of land with a new house.
Another time Irma was unhappy was when father got into the haying business. Pat grew up on a farm. He loved farming and wanted to farm. So, he bought a tractor and baler. They baled hay then turned around and sold the hay to people with horses or cows. It sounded like a promising business plan, but it didn't work out. Driving the tractor and toting heavy hay bales was hard, dirty work, but that wasn’t the problem for Irma. The tractor or the baler kept breaking down and they would lose the money they made each year to equipment breakdowns. Irma hated losing money so she hated the hay business.
Something else that made Irma mad was when Pat left. She never really acknowledged Pat's death (1/12/2019). She told people her husband was working on the turnpike or some other job where he was out of town. She was very unhappy that he moved his stuff out of their room and never came to see her.
They lived on South May Avenue for most of their lives. Once they decided they needed to transfer their business to their grandson, Caleb, they moved to a house in Moore for a year. Then nearly three years ago, Pat and Irma moved into Legend Assisted Living. This was a very good move for them because Irma didn’t have to cook and they drove less.
Irma’s mental and physical health declined noticeably over the last few years. She was put on hospice shortly after Pat died. She was expected to pass away before the first of February this year, but then she caught Covid-19 and passed away a couple of weeks earlier than expected. Irma passed away at Legends Assisted living on S May – Highland section on January 19, 2021.
We think her passing away made her happy. She gets to be in heaven with Jesus and Pat and she can get hugs.
The funeral will be held 3:00pm Monday, January 25th 2021 at the Moore Funeral Home - 400 SE 19th St, Moore, OK. The family meal will begin 12:30 pm at Southgate Baptist Church - 740 SW 4th St, Moore, OK.
Click here to view a webcast of the service on 1/25/2021 at 02:50 PM, Central Standard Time.
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